A good reply, Lela, and let's agree first that government is indeed a separate layer above the voters, and that this separate layer can make decisions on its own.
Or, to say it in a different way, many voters will find ways to complain about their politicians, no matter the system they live in : - )
Great Britain has a similar voting system we have, and a coalition government happens once every 100 years. Like here, they have a two-party system, but the fish in the bowl are two very large fish, and a couple of minor fish and only when the voters presented the two big fish with not enough seats to govern, only then is one small fish lucky enough to sit in at the governmental level.
Then, I have good news that increasing the voters' control over their government leads to their government behaving more like the voters want.
When there is political freedom, the voters simply go to those parties that state what they want to hear. When these parties lie, they are gone the next election.
In Proportional Voting, one cannot say, Hey we are orange, and then vote blue and green for the essential aspects. Next time around, the Orange voters will vote for another party that stands up for Orange issues. The first Orange party will be gone because they lied.
Here, the politicians do not even lie. They just get the same issues out of the closet during election time, rile up the voters in the red or blue direction, and once the chips fall these politicians do whatever they want to do, just like you said.
So, voter empowerment is the issue. If you want, I can provide more examples.