A very good approach, Geoff, and I like that you are allowing me to see your thinking process. You have a good mind.
The way I go about is that I must place both realms in their own 'corners' so to speak. First I need to make each as complete as they can be, and only then can I make comparisons.
Starting with matter, there are two conflicting aspects engrained in the outcome.
One example is how matter with planet Earth, for instance, converges into one body of matter. Yet as soon as we move to the Solar System, we do not have just that convergence but also some divergence to deal with.
This divergence increases when we move to the larger level of Milky Way, and for the material outcomes in the universe we can actually see a completed divergence, and no convergence left at all. That is, some 'localized' happenstance can still occur, of two galaxies merging into one larger galaxy.
Yet the galaxy that is moving in complete opposite direction of our own Milky Way, and has been doing so for 13.8 billion years already, there is completely and totally nothing occurring between both galaxies. They will never meet; they will never return to the original starting points.
The other example is found at the subatomic level. The two obvious material ingredients are the neutrons and the protons, found in the nuclei of atoms. The one material particle that likes to play hide and seek is the electron, not found in the nuclei, and also not staying in one and the same place.
In truth, the protons and the electrons are identical in number, but they are each other's opposite in charge. That means that one is the action and the other the reaction.
As a result, the universe as a whole is neutral in charge, whereas the subatomic level is never neutral in charge. Again, two realities that should not both be true but that are true nevertheless.
We need the human brain to understand the situation. Reality is not black and white; it is colored. Reality is not 2D; it is 3D.
A last point is that there is no matter that exists at a standstill. I can come to just one conclusion based on all this: We live in a result and not in the original state.
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The broken toy comes to the rescue because we know (100%) two things:
1. Nothing of the toy disappeared. It is all still there, just like energy which we know cannot get lost. Nevertheless, the toy is in tatters.
2. The special trick the toy had been capable of performing is now gone, and it is gone forever. The toy will not repair itself.
From this, we can state that there was an original energized state with an ability that does not exist anymore today. Other than that, everything is still present, just in tatters.
Perhaps you are familiar with the table and quantum mechanics? How, when penetrating the table to smaller and smaller levels, we bump into a lot of nothing, a lot of space. The incorrect part is then to say that there is not really a table. It is actually both true: the table is real, and the deeper levels of protons, neutrons and electrons with a lot of space is real.
Moving deeper into the neutrons and protons, we do not find the unit that builds all. Rather, we find even more how there is no single unit that builds all. We find quarks, distinctions that are diverse; they are not one and the same.
We can end up with the same but then as when putting many differently colored dots on a piece of paper. Envision all these diverse colors as dots thrown on a piece of paper. The specific colorations disappear, and we find a gray outcome (in this perfectly balanced example) because each dot can only contribute its own little reality. They mix and blend into one outcome (boring gray). At the overall level, we can end up with a distinct outcome, even distinct from each specific dot. We do live in two realities.
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If we take this quickly to the religious realm, then we should find two different realities as well. Indeed, if we view ourselves as demigods, then we captured that duality already. We are part material, part spiritual, the combination of different outcomes in-one.
To stand in the spiritual position only would be a mistake. And to find the spiritual position only outside ourselves would also be a mistake.
In the end, we are tiny, tiny, tiny, so we cannot blow ourselves up to the level of God. Yet we must also be careful not to create a God in our heads who is Almighty beyond reason. We have to control our brain like a horse; we must actively direct it and turn it around when the horse wants to fly into paradise on wings it does not have.
Thanks, Geoff, for your reply. I think we are having a good conversation. Thank you once more for showing your insights. Much appreciated.